The girls on SexArt are like everyone’s dream partner. They have a friendly personality, a positive attitude towards sex, an attractive body, and, just like Mia Split in “Flare,” a tight pussy. But what exactly makes it feel so tight?
Actually, it’s not the vagina itself, but the muscles that hold it up.
You’re totally right about the vagina having muscles, but they’re not super strong enough to really squeeze a penis tightly. Plus, we can’t actually control those muscles consciously. The real reason why our lady parts feel tight is because of the pelvic floor muscles.
The pelvic floor has two muscles called levator ani, and the main one is called pubococcygeus. Pubococcygeus is a strong muscle that plays a big role in our sexual pleasure.
When we’re chilling, the levator ani muscle group forms a cone shape that’s stuck to the walls of the pelvis. Think of it like a household funnel, with the top open and a narrower tube pointing down. Inside this cone, you’ll find our gut and other important stuff just hanging out.
The cone narrows into a strong tube where the pee tube, gut, and vagina go through. This trio, along with most of the vagina, are inside the tube that goes from the bottom of the cone to where it connects to the anal sphincter. That’s why the muscles involved are called levator ani, even though they have many other functions.
Why is levator ani so crucial for sex? When it tightens, the cone part of the muscle becomes flat, pulling the tube up and squeezing its contents as it stretches. The key idea to understand here is that because the vagina is inside the tube, it gets squeezed as the tube becomes narrower and constricts. So, contrary to popular belief, it’s not the strength of the vagina itself that makes us feel tight; it’s actually levator ani that does the job.
In addition to a few other muscles, the main one being the puborectalis, it wraps around the lower part of the private area and the rectum. This levator ani muscle is pretty crucial when it comes to sex, thanks to a series of reflexes.
Every couple having heterosexual sex experiences two reflexes. The first one happens when a penis goes inside and stretches the vagina – this reflex makes the levator ani muscle tighten. The second reflex also makes the muscle contract, but this time it happens when either the clitoris or the uterus is stimulated. In both situations, the muscle relaxes once the stimulation stops.
This whole process of tightening and loosening is why rhythm plays a big role in sex, and why it’s crucial for us to take control when necessary, just like Eva Brown in “Love Who You Love.” We can sense this tightening sensation way more than you can.
These reflexes work together to stretch and tighten the lower part of the vagina during sex, along with other muscles in the pelvis. They also help widen the upper part of the vagina near the womb. However, it’s difficult to feel this relaxing sensation deep inside because our perception of it is not very clear.
Why do we have reflexes down there? Well, they definitely make sex more enjoyable, but they also help get the body ready to receive and hold onto sperm. That’s why we find it funny when we see those “drippy pussy” shots, because it can happen to anyone, but if it happens all the time, it’s a sign of a weak pelvic floor. Luckily, most of the girls here probably won’t have that issue.
Next time you’re getting intimate, when you’re really getting into it early on, take a moment to notice where you or your partner feels the tightest. It’s not gonna be around the top, but more towards the bottom. It’s because those muscles closest to the entrance are the strongest and they react to deep penetration. If you stimulate her at the same time, you both get an extra intense response.
Even though levator ani is designed to contract repeatedly, like any muscle, it will eventually get tired. That’s why it’s a good idea to mix things up during sex. Take a break every now and then, and when you start again, the sensations will be even more intense. Many movies demonstrate the advantages of doing this, like “Just in Time” with Patricia Lee and Deny Lou.
A lot of people think that the more sex we have, the lazier we get, but that’s just a myth and a judgmental one to boot. The truth is, our pelvic floor weakens due to factors like getting out of shape, having kids, or going through menopause. And for about a third of women dealing with this, it not only affects our sexual satisfaction and our partners’, but it can also lead to other problems like peeing a little when we cough or sneeze, and a whole bunch of other issues.
That’s where Kegel exercises come in.
Kegel exercises are proven to help with bladder control in women who have weakened pelvic floor muscles after giving birth, are out of shape, or have gone through menopause. But, there are all sorts of ‘Kegel’ gadgets being sold to women with perfectly healthy pelvic floors, even though there’s no evidence that they’ll actually make any difference, whether it’s for sexual reasons or not.
There’s no solid research to back up the claim that women with normal pelvic floors, or their partners, will have better sex if they try to strengthen their muscles. A study by Chambless debunked this notion 40 years ago and even demonstrated that women with exceptionally strong pelvic floors don’t have more orgasms or derive more pleasure from intercourse than others.
Even though people still believe in the connection between pubococcygeus strength and orgasm quality, it’s actually just a common misconception. It’s kind of like the whole ‘g-spot’ thing, where outdated research from decades ago went viral and people still believe in it, even though newer studies have proven it wrong.
Kegel checked out 3,000 women for his papers in 1948 and 1952, but he didn’t really put his hypothesis to the test with any experimental analysis. Further research later proved him correct about pelvic floor exercises helping women with weak levator ani muscles, especially those dealing with incontinence. However, his thoughts on the connection between the pubococcygeus muscle and orgasm turned out to be off the mark.
Despite that, Kegel exercises have been beneficial for countless women. Lowenstein and other experts have found that if we have weak pelvic floor muscles, doing Kegel exercises can make a significant difference. There is a plethora of high-quality research indicating that women who undergo pelvic floor rehabilitation often experience an improvement in their sexual satisfaction – or, in simpler terms, their sex life goes back to how it was before their pelvic floor issues arose.
Another myth is that after we climax, our pelvic floor gets all tight and stays that way, making sex better for both of us. But, there’s actually no proof of that. Still, it’s a handy myth because some dudes need all the motivation they can get to help us reach the big O.
Instead, rapid rhythmic contractions of muscles, including the levator ani and puborectalis muscles, occur for up to 30 seconds. Muscle tone then returns to normal, allowing the reflex cascade described above to be re-established. That’s good because it makes us ready to come again. And also like Rika Fan in “First Aid Kit”.
So basically, if you’re a young, fit woman who hasn’t had kids, or a guy with a partner like that, Kegel exercises won’t really do much for you. You gotta do them a ton of times every day for at least eight weeks, but honestly, it’s not gonna make a difference.
But if you or your partner have had a baby or gone through menopause, doing Kegel exercises will probably make sex more enjoyable for both of you. Without the pelvic floor muscles, sex wouldn’t be as satisfying or enjoyable.